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Self Blame

Is it not better to blame me than blame another person? Well, it may be better if you were able to develop a positive attitude toward yourself rather than continually blaming yourself.

A very important part of positive thinking is patting yourself on the back from time to time. Doing this is an incredibly good way of building up your self-confidence.

Blaming Oneself

If you take medication to help you with your levels of anxiety the list of positive thoughts (below) can still be of great benefit to you. Its shows the difference between the harmful effects of anxiety’s negative thoughts and the more useful positive thoughts that may help in times of stress.

Positive Thoughts

  • I can meet this challenge.
  • I can learn to cope with these feelings.
  • These awful feelings do not mean something dreadful is about to happen to me.
  • Even if I make a fool of myself it is not the end of the world.
  • I am learning to cope with this situation.
  • These terrible feelings will pass.
  • I am going to stay here and face this feeling.
  • I am not doing badly at all.

Negative Thoughts

  • I am really going mad.
  • These feelings are out of control.
  • I feel so awful I just know something dreadful is going to happen to me.
  • I will make myself look a complete fool.
  • I will never learn to cope with this situation.
  • I feel terrible… things are beyond my control.
  • I really ought to get away from here I do not feel well.
  • I seem to be getting steadily worse.

Other examples of positive thinking could include:

  • Relax I am in control.
  • One step at a time.
  • I am really pleased with my progress.
  • Every day in every way, I am getting better and better.*

*This last example was one of the Mantra pioneered by the French pharmacist Émile Coué from February 1857 to July 1926

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