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Self Blame

Is it not better to blame me than blame another person? Well, it may be better if you were able to develop a positive attitude toward yourself rather than continually blaming yourself.

A very important part of positive thinking is patting yourself on the back from time to time. Doing this is an incredibly good way of building up your self-confidence.

Blaming Oneself

If you take medication to help you with your levels of anxiety the list of positive thoughts (below) can still be of great benefit to you. Its shows the difference between the harmful effects of anxiety’s negative thoughts and the more useful positive thoughts that may help in times of stress.

Positive Thoughts

  • I can meet this challenge.
  • I can learn to cope with these feelings.
  • Try to take control of the situation you find yourself in. Even if you think you have failed realise you have left square one behind and moved on. Try again at another time. Each time you try will make it that little bit easier. Doing nothing will only make your problems worse than they really are.
  • These awful feelings do not mean something dreadful is about to happen to me.
  • Even if I make a fool of myself it is not the end of the world.
  • I am learning to cope with this situation.
  • These terrible feelings will pass.
  • I am going to stay here and face this feeling.
  • I am not doing badly at all.

Negative Thoughts

  • I am really going mad.
  • These feelings are out of control.
  • I feel so awful I just know something dreadful is going to happen to me.
  • I will make myself look a complete fool.
  • I will never learn to cope with this situation.
  • I feel terrible… things are beyond my control.
  • I really ought to get away from here I do not feel well.
  • I seem to be getting steadily worse.

Other examples of positive thinking could include:

  • Relax I am in control.
  • One step at a time.
  • I am really pleased with my progress.
  • Volunteering to help others is another way to feel good about yourself.
  • Every day in every way, I am getting better and better.*

*This last example was one of the Mantra pioneered by the French pharmacist Émile Coué (February 1857 to July 1926)

Getting In Touch

If you are a private person and feel threatened in the presence of other people try Calling the Samaritans on 116 123, open 24/7
If you are under 19 you can call Childline to contact them by telephone/or mobile 0800 1111, open 24/7
You can send a text message, to Young Minds which provides free, 24/7 text support for people across the UK experiencing a mental health crisis.
If it’s a child safety that concerns you contact NSPCC. You can call them on 0808 800 5000 or email them at

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